Gender Equality Disrupt Sex Life
Gender equality is a concept that is difficult to challenge but the way that some feminist movements set about the issue has created huge controversy in the past. None of the feminist branches has been more provocative than radical feminism often depicted as fanatical and uncompromising and often ridiculed as a bunch of Marxist socialist vegans. The main differences between this movement and other branches is that they do not accept an equalisation of power but rather want to eliminate all traditional gender roles. In this blog we concentrate on the more reasonable approach to gender equality.
Over recent decades we have gone a long way toward ditching many of the inequalities that existed between women and men. More women are now in work and have greater access to education and training and there is definite progress on reducing the pay gap between the genders. Despite this some, including The Pulitzer Prize-winning journalist Susan Faludi, ask whether the inexorable strive for total equality does women more harm than good by asking the question, “If the status of women has never been higher, why is their emotional state so low?
If that isn’t depressing enough gender equality is being accused of being a passion killer. In last year’s US National Sex Survey, it was revealed that we are having less sex than ever. Haven’t we been told that a union based on shared respect, equal power and strong friendship would be a recipe for a healthy sex life? Not necessarily so according to psychotherapist Lori Gottlieb who claims that seemingly ‘blissful egalitarian marriages are a recipe for sexual boredom’. She argues that in our efforts to become ‘gender-neutral we may have become gender neutered’.
Reality Check for Both Genders
Don’t get me wrong I subscribe to tackling inequalities and not for a moment suggesting that we should return to a 1950s-style domestic set-up but wonder whether equality has made us lazy, restricted and less inclined to enjoy more sexual freedom in the bedroom. According to a study from Washington entitled Egalitarianism, Housework and Sexual Frequency in Marriage, couples where the men do all the ‘feminine’ chores have sex 1.5 fewer times a month.
There is need for a reality check here. Fact – compared to women, men are more aggressive and enjoy being promiscuous, not my words but the findings of evolutionary psychologists. So, is it that our biology is going to provide a blockade to gender equality? The argument is that throughout evolution males fought to gain access to females. Males were also more likely to engage in casual sex because it increased their reproductive output. Females on the other hand are considered to have been more selective in considering who to partner. Are we then able to conclude that physical and behavioural sex differences make males more likely to dominate females and that females are less likely to challenge that domination?
Some feminists are likely to find that notion particularly unappealing as it implies that gender inequality is a natural consequence determined by biology. They contest that earlier gender differences in behaviour can be interpreted as the consequence of practical differences in how men and women lived in a society where there was division of labour. Females did most of the child care while men took responsibility for hunting. They argue that the old guard is rapidly changing with women now more competitive in careers and businesses with greater participation in contact sports, and higher use of alcohol and other drugs, which they claim confounds the gene based gender difference arguments.
Men And Women Are Always Different
It won’t be universally welcomed but, come on, men and women are physically and emotionally different. I would question whether equality is possible until we all are literally equal. Until we look, think and act the same surely differences are inescapable? Let’s applaud any move to live in a world that is more equitable and less sexist but please spare us from the confusion created by blatant anti-male sexist nonsense spouted by radical feminists. I for one welcome a world that sees gender equal under the law but one where men and women have different strengths and weaknesses and are distinguishable biological beings.
So, let’s address the accusation that achieving gender equality in some way creates sexual boredom. Surely, what you decide to do together as partners impacts on all aspects of your life including sexual relationships but there is no real evidence to support the idea that prioritising respect and sharing responsibilities has a negative effect in the bedroom. Boring is not bad and is likely to be the impact of other issues. So, look again at bringing back the spark whether romantic or raunchy. Remember what made it hot in the past relax and get down and dirty like before. The introduction of Manbuild will add a little something to the recipe for getting back on track.