Guys, what do women want?
What do women want? It’s a simple question with many subjective answers. There are also several books published writing about this topic. Especially those gender psychology authors. Like John Gray famed of the rather controversial book, ” Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus”.
As you know I tend to spend a fair amount of my time in Singapore which involves a 13 hour flight from London. So I get plenty of opportunity to do research into sexual health and desire. I hate long haul flights but it is also a time for me to do some serious reading and gain some extra knowledge.
My latest good read is another controversial book, from journalist Daniel Bergner. He suggests that female sexual desire is also as strong and lustful as men’s. I am hoping to learn something useful about women’s sexual desires. I hope I have.
Two sides of a coin
Society teaches men two contradictory ideas about what women want in men. One side says women want gentlemen who treat them with respect. Listen with attention to her thoughts and feelings. A trusted guy in her life and ever reliable to assist her as a friend and soul mate.
The other side says that’s all lies. What women want is a man who is controlling and dominant. And with huge interest in the physical side of her all the time. That is if a man acts like that to her, she is dominating and taming him, which is what woman intends to achieve.
In summary, this is the theme of the book.
“Women want sex just as much as men do, and this drive is ‘not, for the most part, sparked or sustained by emotional intimacy and safety.”
When it comes to the craving for sexual variety, the research Bergner has suggested this. That women may be ‘even less well-suited for monogamy than men.’ What do you think?
By now you should be curious what is this book that I am talking about?
She wants it as much as him?
Called “What Do Women Want? Adventures in the Science of Female Desire”. This book argues that though some women still want to play at passivity. While men protect, provide, and perform, plenty more women want another ‘p’ word. That is “PARTNERS”. And by partners the author means “in the bedroom”.
When I talked about it with my girlfriend, she became defensive and sarcastic. But, she did agree to read the book, and I’m hopeful that something positive may come of it. Anyway, it’s useful for any heterosexual man to know this probable psychological hack. That the courteous, respectful, solicitous, gentle, egalitarian guy she wants you to be are superficial requirements. Most of the time is rarely if ever the man she wants – and needs – you to be in bed.
This comes as kind of shocking, isn’t it?!
Which if true means one thing. That supporting and developing your sexual desire and manly abilities is more important. Especially for middle-aged men. Manbuild comes in super handy then.
At least it ups your winning probability by having a potent weapon which she likes.